Have you met your soul mate? | Ashley Clift-Jennings | TEDxUniversityofNevada

What does it mean to be married to someone who is transgender? Ashley Clift-Jennings had to answer that question six years into marriage to her husband. After overcoming her fear of what other people would think, she now appreciates that her spouse is her soul mate, and she would know how to find her in a dark room.

Ashley is the rare combination of big ideas and big action. With an innate ability to see the larger picture and connect seemingly unrelated dots, Ashley has advised dozens of small businesses from startup into growth. She believes strongly in community and is a powerhouse in her hometown of Reno, organizing meetups and events like Reno Maker Faire and Startup Weekend Reno. She is the founder and former CEO of Girlmade, an accelerator program for women to encourage a new, positive narrative that girls can run their own startups. Now with Parlor, Ashley is combining all her natural talents as a super-connector, problem-solver and music lover to push back on the “starving artist” myth. Ashley graduated from Columbia University and is a member of Nevada Lieutenant Governor Mark Hutchison’s Northern Nevada Entrepreneurship Task Force (EFT).

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx


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  1. BIGGEST TWIST: I did a google search about this couple and discovered that the speaker (Ashley) transitioned in 2018 to become a man. "She" goes by Ethan Clift now. I would love to hear a follow-up talk from Ashley/Ethan about the whole process.

  2. thank you for sharing your journey….Im having a lot of storms with my partner has so much fear of my transition and the phobia is overcoming her mind and emotions to hate…hopefully with professional help…something peaceful can be resolved

  3. kinda confused why she’s keep calling her spouse ,who changed from female to male , ‘her’ or ‘she’ continuously also how did she not know he was trans after being married for 6 whole years

  4. This is what I call 21st century stupidity. She had a delusional husband and instead of offering him psychiatry and mental support, she decided to feed his mental delusion since she was always very PC?! If she ever runs into a starving anorexic she will support her on a diet to loose weight…LOL LOL

  5. I'm kinda expecting to be disappointed. Edit:I wasn't.

    Tough the idea that anyone might ever find a soulmate, of which there is only one, seems very unlikely to me.

  6. Found him married him. Total opposites and just knew. It was only meant to be a one stand. We had synchronicity and explored and lived.The marriage ended 6 months ago. He had had a breakdown. And everyone was so angry that I would just be hurt but understand. Today I said it ends. We chat non stop in WhatsApp but not in person. For me to heal. I’m flying 7000 miles and trying to fix my insecurities and self esteem (a lot predate the marriage). So I’m sat thinking I’ve broken contact with someone I could share the hardest parts of my soul to. He won’t acknowledge his need for therapy which was an issue. But it must be bad. I promised he can come and fall apart. And slowly hand the pieces back when ready. It hasn’t sunk in.!

  7. I love that they’re happy but I feel like if you were battling with your identity it should have been something discussed or dealt with at least with yourself before committing to a person forever. It’s sort of selfish especially if you tell that person that you won’t change if it would affect your relationship because you’re pushing your eternal conflict, lifestyle and potential happiness on someone else. That person would then feel conflicted. Not wanting to keep you in a body you aren’t comfortable in but also not being romantically involved with a body they’re not comfortable in. I feel like if you are having any of these problems within yourself you HAVE to take care of yourself first. It’s not fair to you or anyone else to be in that position.


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